It seems like in the past few days death has been at every turn. In just one week came the passing of the mother of my pastor’s wife as well as the oldest daughter of a couple I have grown to love in the past two years. Though I care deeply for my pastor’s family and what they are going through, I have to admit that the death of my friend’s daughter shook me more. Here was a little girl who I saw and spoke with and laughed with, although not nearly as much as I would have liked, and suddenly she was gone. My heart aches for both the parents of this girl and her younger sister who will now grow up an only child.
I’ll be honest, as much confidence as I have in the Lord’s sovereignty and His righteousness, I found myself asking “why?”. For what purpose did the loss of this innocent girl serve? What reason could God have for taking her life so young? Why is it that time can be so insensitive as to keep moving the same as it always has in the light of tragedy, forcing the rest of us to keep going to work, sleeping, and eating like normal? Why?
Probably the last thing a person experiencing loss wants to hear is a slew of Bible verses and how “God understands what you’re going through and it will all turn out all right.” But we tend to lose sight of how true that really is! When Jesus was here on the earth He never promised us that we would have it easy. He never said we would even get an explanation for His actions (or lack thereof) in our lives. However, He did promise us that, if we believe in Him with real belief, He will always be with us and will give us the necessary strength to press on –
“Fear not, for I am with you;
Be not dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you,
Yes, I will help you,
I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.’”
What a promise! The God of the entire universe, who has knowledge beyond anything we could ever comprehend, tells us through His Word that He will uphold us with His right hand. To me that is such a romantic notion. He holds us together with His righteousness and goodness.
So I encourage those of you going through extremely difficult times like my friend. It is okay to ask “why” when we struggle to understand, but we also must accept that sometimes there is no answer that we are able to see. The Lord loves you so very deeply, so run to Him. Be angry, scream, ask Him questions. But let Him hold you and walk you through it.